Tantra is not only about sex.... Many people who practices tantra seems to have the need to excuse themselves in front of others by pointing out that, "tantra is not only about sex".
Well - the practice of tantra leads to more than orgasms and great fun between the sheets. It leads to awakening, mind blowing realisations and super powers to manifest yourself in life.
But - it is all about sex - actually.
Beside the drive to eat, shit and sleep, sex is a super important drive in human beings. Our need to engage sexually is not only about connecting to our partner, its a way to release, let go and get in contact with our selfs. It is nurturing, healing, energizing and relaxing at the same time and has similar functions as laughter or cry - sex releases tensions. In a society where strong emotional expressions are "banned", the expression of sexuality and horniness is also suppressed.
People who don´t have sex either turn of their libido or repress it to become shady and perverted. If you restrain from sex for a longer period of time, you either loose or your drive or gets mad by constant thoughts of how to get it and in what way.
When suppressing libido or repressing it in to perversion people miss out on the bodys natural anti depressives, the bodys own sleeping pill as well as an amazing energy boost. Having good sex is entering the part of your brain were you are open, empathic, kind, extroverted and non judgemental. Its a door to your creativity and people who have a lot of good sex - naturally gets confident, social and charismatic. Its easy to say "yes" to a person who shines like a great lover, and its easy to love someone who is fulfilled in themselves.
In ancient times - in the cradle of tantric culture - sex was as natural as eating and sleeping and tantric love making was a way to increase spiritual and physical power. It was a time before religion and kings covered sex with shame and guilt to rein in people and suppress their power. People who have good and conscious sex are dangerous to dictators since people who have good and conscious can not easily be ruled.
In ancient times - tantra developed by wise men and women as a way to access vitality, happiness and unconditional love as a foundation of a solid and healthy community. Now days there secrets are revealed again, and we are many who practice and share this sacred sexuality. We are working to wash away the shame, the guilt and the excuses around being aroused, horny and loving.
It is all about sex - and sex brings you that higher energy and peace of mind.